Looking bad in front of others is often our biggest fear! Why? We’re scared of what our friends will think, the pressures from social media, and fitting in with the ‘social norms’. All these thoughts running through our heads, and it tells us “I can’t do this”. I don’t want to do it. When in reality, all we want to do is do that one thing.
So, tell me…when was the last time the fear of failure stopped you from doing something you really wanted to do? Last month? Last week? Today?
For years I’ve wanted to start my own online business. To have more freedom and be location independent. What stopped me? The fear of judgement. The fear of doing something different. Having to step out of my comfort zone. I was so busy trying to please everyone else that I was making myself unhappy.
What changed? I stopped letting my fear control me and started taking actionable steps to achieve my goal. I took my business seriously. Invested in courses, coaches, memberships and surrounded myself with people who supported me. I wouldn’t be where I am today if I’d have just stayed in my comfort zone.
It’s only when you actually take a step back, acknowledge what you’re afraid of and go and do it anyway, that you realize how much potential you actually have.
How do you know if you’re suffering from fear of failure?
- Self-sabotaging your work or relationships
- Always seeking perfection
- Lack of self-belief
- Not wanting to take on new opportunities or challenges
- Playing down compliments/ positive feedback
If you feel like you can relate to any of those, then today is the day you’re going to step into your power and stop letting fear control you.
How to stop fearing failure…
First of all, what actions can you take today? This week? This month? This year? That your future self will thank you for? It doesn’t matter how big or small it might be. Think of something that is going to light you up, and in return will light someone else up.
Here’s a few actions you can take straight away to help let go of that fear:
- Address the problem. Don’t bury your head in the sand
- Learn from your mistakes. Don’t dwell on them!
- Don’t bottle it up. Get it off your chest by speaking to someone
- Question your fears. Are they irrational and unlikely to come true?
- Focus on what you can control. Most of the things we worry about are actually out of our control
It might be talking to somebody you’ve fallen out with. Starting your own business. Going travelling. Starting that YouTube channel that you’ve always wanted to do. Whatever it is, if you want to do it – just go and do it! Whether it fails or not, at least you gave it a go.
The more you do it, the easier saying no to fear is going to be. It starts by taking small steps and actions. The longer you put something off, the more fear will control you. And once fear takes over, it pushes you down and stops you from standing in your zone of genius.
So, what actions are you going to take from this? I would love you to know.